Mood is a funny thing. Whether we are about to go on our first date or have been married for 20 years, we all hope a date night will end up with physical intimacy and possibly even sex. Since Men think about sex about every two and a half minutes and are driven by visual stimuli it is a simple matter for a woman to get him in the mood.
Women however have a more complicated sex drive. Even though we as women know what we want, and our desire for sex is just as intense, arousal must often be achieved. It is not automatic which is mostly the case with men.
Here are some steps to help get your lady in the mood.
Plan the Night around Her
Find out what your partner loves to do and then plan the date around activities she will enjoy. This could mean taking her to an art gallery, a museum, or (God forbid) a chick flick. Remember this is about making her feel you fit in her world.
Remember to do your homework. What is her favorite food? What activities does she enjoy? What are her friends like? Take clues from her lifestyle. Plan your date to be attractive to her.
Set the Mood
Here again it is important to know what your girl is in to. Does she appear to be a romantic? Then Candle light and intimate surroundings will help her to feel you are on the same page.
Does she get into get into goth? Then wear all black and take her to a heavy metal concert.
Setting the mood to the frequency your date is on will help to put her at ease. If you do it right she might even to want to seduce you.
Engage Her in Conversation
Engage her in conversation to get her in the mood. When I say this what I mean is ask her some open ended questions. Invite her to tell you about her life, loves, opinions, etc.
Be a good listener. This tells her that you really care about what she thinks. I know as a woman that really turns me on.
When she asks you questions, be honest and answer her fully. This will help her to trust you. (This is so vital to a woman’s libido.)
Don’t Forget to Flirt with Her
Look for signs she is in the mood already. There are visible signs that a woman is flirting with you. Some of these are:
- Batting of the eyes
- Twirling the hair
- A sudden wardrobe change
- She may ask you for help
- She may try to get close to you
- She will laugh at even bad jokes
When you begin to see behavior like this from the woman you’re with, you are more than likely on the right track. Listen to Her Body Language. If she is not into you the signs will be different.
- She won’t look you in the eyes
- She will position her body away from you
- She will cross her arms
- She will look around the room
- Her answers to your questions will be short and non informational
Once you begin to see the signs that she is into you try making some body contact. If she is into you here she will most certainly reveal it. Place your hand on hers and see what she does.
If she is into you she will allow this and engage with you. From here let your Lady guide you as to how much touching and feeling gets done. Don’t be shy but don’t get pushy either. Remember you are trying to build trust so she can feel safe to let go and open up to you.
Communicate Your Desire
By this time it will be obvious to your date that you are into her. If you have done your job right and are paying attention, you should have a pretty good idea whether or not she is in to you. Communicate to her that you would like to take it to another level.
Begin to turn the conversation to that of a sexual nature and see how she responds. If she engages positively you have a green light. Try to kiss her. If she kisses you back you are pretty much right where you want to be.
Let Her Invite You
As always listen to her body language. It is okay to advance but if she begins to pull away or try to control your hands. This is a sign she is not ready to go farther with you. If she allows your hands freedom to explore her body you are pretty much home.
No matter how far along you are with making out, If at any point she says stop, here’s what you need to do.